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Bliss

Morning light splinters the heart.

Golden rays illuminate play wounds.

At least I’ll have a piece of you

Lingering on my flesh.

As if I need one more reminder of you.

 

Drunk from your scent,

I stand slowly, head spinning.

Failed attempt to match last night’s pace.

I wash you away.

 

You cuddle peacefully with your indifference.

I love the way you sleep.

Shame you’ve yet to wake.

Some people never do.

 

Your kiss, so hoppy it stings.

Feet trudge along the floor.

Heavy steps mirror the weary heart within.

Short of breath as silence kicks me to the door.

 

Is this your idea of bliss – loving me presently

Then wiping your hands clean of me?

You are a false hope for the fool that

I am.

That I was.

 

Glance back to feel you once more.

Like sand slipping through my hands,

Your eyes fade, gone, flighty as the wind.

Unrealized love.

I’ll miss you.

 

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Wouldn’t you know

The world has never seen a more sincere love?

Strangers blinded by the light within us.

At least I felt this, and lost you.

I lived it

As though true.

 

Can you say the same?

 

Does it pain you, Leave you cloudy,

Tranquility stolen, Sky no longer blue?

Laughter ringing in your ears as you reminisce;

Does it sneak up in your sweet dreams too?

 

Planes come, jetlag goes.

Our souls danced freely.

Giggles escaped from my lips.

My eyes stole a piece of your heart

That day.

 

I know you remember.

 

Years pass,

It is NOW that you truly see?

I loved you, let you slip,

Set you free.

 

This is my bliss.

Easy, let’s breathe.

So fickle your love then.

Stale no longer, thankfully.

 

Such a proud little thing you are,

Come around to me.

Happy for you,

I shall let it be.

 

Wish I could stay longer,

Give to you the sun,

Caress you once again.

Ego craving what’s left undone.

 

Take these words as my final kiss

And may the present be your bliss.

We have each other in this moment,

Forever you

I will miss.

 

 

–Original Poem–

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Life of Pi, I mean — Ki

What a difference a year makes. Where were you one year ago today? With what issues were you struggling? Which path in life scared you the most? What questions laid heavily upon your heart?

Religion was my answer, back then. Had you asked naive Ki these questions a year ago, my busy mind ticked: Why does religion scare me? Who is ‘God?’ and Why don’t I know God? I was confused about religion, scared by it, desperate for a connection with it – or so I thought, back then. I voiced my doubts concerning Christianity, hollered my inquiries regarding Judaism, and quietly hid my fascination with Buddhism. I laugh now because religion was not the issue at all! Religion was the symptom, not the root of the questions in my heart.

I blogged last December about uncomfortable feelings surrounding Christianity and ‘God’ in the post A New Year. A New Religion? (I know some of you remember!! I think I fluffed a few feathers). As I’ve said many times before on this blog, I was one lost, confused, desperate woman –pulling at the fray of ANYTHING that would prevent me from drowning in doubt, insecurity, and fear. I assumed religion was the missing piece of the puzzle. Yes, religion would save me from the negative feelings that flourished in my mind!!! I thought if I asked enough questions of each religion and fervently searched for a deeper connection that I would undeniably feel the presence of ‘God.’ I can assure you, life is never so simple.

There was a hole in my story, back then. I can truthfully say there still IS a hole in my story. The difference now is that I am fully aware that religion is the LEAST of my worries! The obstacle is not in finding ‘God;’ the challenge is in finding my true self.

I ask of myself this year – With what issues do I struggle? Which path in life scares me the most? I can assure you, religion is not my answer this year. I am not actually looking for God. I am not looking for a religion that fits me perfectly. I realize that searching for fulfillment in a religion leaves me feeling frustrated and defeated. Although diving head first into Jewish religion courses has been one of the most eye-opening experiences of my life, I am finding each day that a desire to know ‘God’ is easily translated into: A desire to know myself.  

Hahaha funny side note: I named this website after a novel that unbeknownst to me at the time of naming, is in fact about a spiritual, introspective quest. I mean, come on guys!! The answers have been in me all along! I just thought “LifeofKi” was catchy, and I kinda thought I might get a few accidental ‘hits’ from those searching for Life of Pi …. I had no clue that “LifeofKi” was literally THE MOST PERFECT name for what was about to unfold in my life. Thank you, Life of Pi!! Or should I say, thank you subconscious, true Ki?!

Okay back to seriousness………..

What am I afraid of the most? Honestly?

Knowing myself. Forgiving myself. Accepting myself. Loving myself.

Which road desperately needs fresh pavement and immense TLC?

The path to creating a healthier sense of self.

There is no need to look for a God (or energy, as I see it) because it is already inside of my heart. I thought I was waiting for God when in truth, I was waiting for acceptance. Acceptance from myself. I am beginning to acknowledge that I have neglected the one person who cries out for attention, love, and acceptance. I have let go of my mental self, my physical self, my spiritual self. Where I once saw a ‘yearning for a connection with God,’ I now see I need the one person who is keeping me from me.

I miss Ki, the free spirit. I miss Ki, the playful lover. I miss Ki, the confident woman with aspirations and dreams, big dreams.

I left my true self on the side of the road years ago. I gave my ego permission to reign over every ounce of my body, allowing for the rest of Ki to feed on the false perceptions of who I needed to be, ought to be, would never be. Readers, this is THE most frustrating dead end to find yourself. But wait!! Need a silver lining?? Well, you’re in luck.

When you find yourself in this destitute place, you will soon realize you were never lost to begin with. It isn’t about finding yourself. The key is in cultivating a true sense of who you are and who you are destined to be. You, like me, will get there. I promise you. Although religion has helped to calm my busy mind (and open my world to culture, compassion, and love) the only TRUTH is in getting to know myself. Readers, give yourself permission to let go of whatever it is holding you back. If YOU are what is holding you back, then smile. A beautiful ride awaits you. This is the toughest job in the world. Tougher than parenthood; tougher than tackling issues with others; tougher than giving birth! I say truthfully that cultivating a healthy relationship with myself has been the toughest challenge in my life thus far – and some of you know the hell I have seen in my short 23 years.

Let me show you that you can be in the midst of a hellish downfall and come out of it stronger than ever. Yes, as I said I have demons, but don’t we all? We all bleed the same; some of us just have a few more scars than others. And trust me: your scars are beautiful, just like YOU.

 

Begin with this:

Look in the mirror and say to yourself every day –

I am beautiful.

I am doing a great job.

I love you.

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Your life begins with you.

Your love begins with you.

Take the first step.

 

Cheers, Readers.

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***Photo courtesy of Courtney Venable Photography***

 

Related:

Love Yourself

 

In a Sea of Unknowns

I’m honored to have a second opportunity with The Easier Softer Way! It is an amazingly inspirational site with thoughts on healing, meditation, spirituality, Buddhism, recovery, and much more. It provides profound insight for those in need. I wrote a post on the power of positive self-talk and introspection called In a Sea of Unknowns. Check it out if you have a moment!

Cheers, readers!

Every new day is beautiful, you know.
Each newly passing cloud is a reminder that all things are temporary; this too shall pass – whatever it may be.
New life drinks in the warmth of the sun as it rises.
It is always there, you know. The sun, that is.
Even though you may not see it, it is always sustaining life, your life…

For the original piece in its entirety — The Easier Softer Way

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Related:

Gratitude — (Post for The Easier Softer Way)

 

 

 

Runaway

Do you think of me often, like I do you?

Catch wind of your name

Fire ablaze within.          

Painted pink, heavy breath, wet palms.

Infectious thoughts, they are.

 

Do you remember the day I let you go?

Airplanes lending our secrets to the clouds.

You think it shows?

You could be happy now.

I’d rather not know.

 

Loved you first when we were children.

I don’t want to waste another minute

Reminiscing.

God, I don’t want to wait until tomorrow

To tell you how I’d feel the rest of my life*

 

Do you remember the look in my eyes?

The one for you, and you only?

You left me upside down, you know that?

Now you sit warmly behind the walls

You’ve built. Shame, I didn’t see them then.

 

 

Can you recall the endless conversation

Over dinner that changed my life?

Words dancing freely from my mouth to yours.

Yours to mine. God my cheeks burned as I grinned.

High above the world we were. Eastern city lights admiring our bliss.

 

And now? Strangers, you and I.

I sit bitterly with my fairytales and firesides.

Intimate with the love you never gave.

God it feels good to dream.

The idea of you silencing my truth.

 

Your pride looks good on your arm.

You two make a great pair.

Does she laugh with you too?

Can she love you as I always do?

Dining for one suits you well.

 

Check, please.

 

 

——Original Love Story——

 

 

*Inspiration: Lyrics from Mat Kearney’s City of Black and White

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A little More

What have you done for someone ELSE today? Did you smile at the stranger in the grocery store? Did you wave on another car stuck in traffic, signaling the ‘go forth’ gesture? Did you whisper ‘I love you’ to the sleepy home you call your own when you left for work this morning? Did you look to the sun and nod a proper ‘thank you’ for your existence? Why does it even matter, right? You’ll do it next time….

Well, I’ll tell you why it matters.

I’m the one in the store who needs the smile from your lovely face. I look to your eyes and search for it, wondering if you’ll remain indifferent or decide to muster up a toothy grin of acceptance. I walk quickly – fearing your approval, yet nervously avoiding your procedural rejection as you continue the search for the Cream Of Mushroom Soup you forgot to purchase yesterday. Will you look up from your list today? I’m looking at you…

I’m the one in traffic who waits patiently, wondering if you’re going to pity the soul who has been disregarded by the others — shoved away because I do not contribute to the flow of traffic. I’m the one who assumes no asshole in a hurry will slow down for fifteen seconds to let my compact car slip in the crack of the busy bustle… but I wonder as I look at each face that speeds past. Will you slow down today? I’ll wave a quiet ‘thank you.’ I promise.

I’m the one who hears the whispers of ‘I love you.’ The faint gestures. The anonymous acts of kindness. I’m thankful for it – and you, who does it. I am among the people who appreciate, who love, who are grateful. Yes, there are still people like that in the world!

There is so much greed. There are so many individualistic ways and selfish tendencies that suffocate society, intoxicating those involved on their lonely paths to isolation. But have hope. Yes YOU – the one who has yet to be drowned in your own ego, have hope. YOUR little acts of kindness are received with open arms and warm hearts. Yes, I still believe in the little things. I believe in your little things. I cherish your little things. So, thank you.

I look to you at the store, in traffic, and in this world, every day. Can’t you see me? I’m the face of humanity. Be kind to me. And to everything else. Show me that you care. Don’t wait for ‘next time.’ I’m here. Now.

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What can you do right now to brighten someone else’s day?

One smile, one email, one door held open a minute longer can change someone’s entire day.

Give a little more today.

 

 

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Can you, readers?

Lost and Living It

Would you agree if I said, All journeys begin with a question?

What type of journeys? You might ask. Well, any. Let me ask you this: What is beginning in your life? What is ending? What is changing? What is shifting? New job? New classes this semester? New students? Friendships forming? Others fading? Lost a relative? Newly retired? Regardless of where you are on the spectrum of this life, think for just one moment: What is this cycle that catches us as we live each day and pushes us to face the friendly foe that is: change and impermanence? More importantly, are you prepared to face what today is offering to you, dear friend?

My ego often speaks very loudly, saying I’m the only one going through this; no one understands. On those days, I submissively give in to fear and doubt, inevitably feeling lost. I wish I could see the power of those weak moments. I wish I could say to myself: Kiley! You feel lost, yes. But you stand here, now. You’re sad, yes. It shall pass, soon. There are tears, yes. They will dry, as always. Kiley, be proud that you continue to live each moment. You may feel lost now, but you’re lost and living it.

Each moment is so precious in this life. A dear friend often reminds me that there are no ordinary moments. I agree. Every person’s journey is his own to take. Each person’s journey is his own to experience, to live fully, to enjoy. I’ve found that the many paths I’ve walked down have taken me to beautiful, yet perplexing corners of life. Some paths are very obviously paved for me to follow; others, overgrown weeds stand as stubborn obstacles for me to overcome. Any way I look at it, each path serves a purpose in my life. Each path I take, each path I explore brings me closer to knowing my true self.

You know, we walk these paths – as parents, teachers, doctors, artists, salespeople, caretakers, etc. Sometimes we walk numerous paths simultaneously. The ego says, You must be good at everything you do!! Get the job done, and do it well! But do not be dismayed, dear friend.  These journeys we take, they are not mere ‘things’ to be conquered and completed.  They are not simply obstacles to be overcome. We should not take on new journeys with fixed plans and final destinations in mind. These shifts in life, these new paths, really are a gift to you. A gift to be cherished, not a race to be completed. These moments are gifts and lessons, wrapped up in one. Your journey should take time, be questioned, explored. Be patient with yourself, on each new journey.

Change — Impermanence — New beginnings – they do not discriminate. We all experience them. Maybe instead of asking: Why do I feel so lost? Why is this happening to me? Why now? Instead, acknowledge the change. Embrace the shift in your life. Know that you feel lost, but that there is nothing to search for. Every answer to each question that lay heavily on your heart lies quietly within yourself. Why not be Lost and Live it? Why not be Lost and Love it? Search for nothing, my dear friend. You are whole from the very beginning.

Ask those questions and take the next step on this path of yours. This is your life.

Why not live it?

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Cheers readers!

Awake

Leave your ego here. Yes, right here at the end of this sentence.

Good, you are in the present moment.

Take these words in – as objectively as possible.

As a great friend once said, “Let your mind focus, and in that focus — set it free.”

 

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What if there is no Heaven? No Hell? What if they are not actually ‘places’ at all?

What if God is with us, here, now, instead of waiting for us at the pearly white gates of Heaven? What if ‘He’ is stabilizing us, just as the ground stabilizes each stride? What if He speaks to us, just as the wind brushes a cheek? What if ‘He’ is not really a ‘He,’ but rather an ‘It’? What if God is actually the Universe?

I can’t say for sure that there are destinations called Heaven and Hell — I like to imagine ‘Heaven’ and ‘Hell’ are elements within us; they make up our being. ‘Heaven’ is the soul within each of us. ‘Hell’ is the mind. In essence, I imagine humans as reflections of the universe. Not reflections of God per say – although I still believe in higher thinking, higher powers. Yet, where some people say ‘God’ is the highest thinker, I say the ‘universe’ is the highest thinker. Therefore, we as humans are very capable of achieving high(er) thinking. ‘Heaven’ and ‘Hell’ within us, however, often intervene and may even hold us back from pursuit of a freeing knowledge – one that is content, peaceful, removed from care and concern.

The Universe is very beautiful, very stubborn, very dangerous at times. So are humans. Very beautiful, very stubborn, very dangerous. The Universe is impermanent — always changing — and I believe humans are no different. We change every day. We grow older; our features fade; we grow weak; we die. Our minds are no different from our bodies. Our minds evolve — just as the old Oak tree grows and strengthens its roots, we cannot forget that it was once a tiny seedling. So, if the Universe and humans are mirror images of impermanence, then how could we ever believe in any fixed, finite places called Heaven and Hell?

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Where is your ego now? Has it returned? What is it saying? Have I challenged your beliefs? Perhaps. I hope I have not angered or offended anyone. Never an intention of mine. These thoughts, they come and they go. Some flourish in my mind, others are never to be seen again. Hopefully your eyes are a bit wider, mind turning a bit quicker, heart beating a bit faster. These are all lovely signs. Signs that you are alive. Just remember, no human knows the answer to Heaven and Hell. Be tolerant of other viewpoints, even if you do not agree. Stand firm in your views. Hold tight to what you know now. After all, the only thing we know for sure – is what the universe offers NOW.